Thursday, May 7, 2009

telling my story

I'm not really here today.  

I have shared my story with Maggie (and the rest of the world) over at Violence Unsilenced.  It is a story that I have only shared with two people in my life.  I am telling about my experience because I know there are other people living the same thing, and others who are not living it any more.

And that is not okay.

Domestic violence happens to one in four women in this country.  And that statistic is based only on the  number of instances that are reported.  Those are only the ones we know about.

It is likely that someone you know and love is being hurt.  Please, say something when you see a bruise.  Ask the uncomfortable questions when your gut is clenched and telling you things are amiss.  She might be waiting for someone to show her the way.

Just a note:  I'm sure there are some of you in my everyday life who are wondering why I haven't mentioned this to you before.  One reason is that it's not really something that comes up over coffee on an average Friday morning, but really, I just don't want to talk about it.  And that is my decision.  Please do not presume it has anything to do with you, because it doesn't.  


  1. You are very brave to share your story so publicly. I think the more people talk about it the better we can make it for those who are being hurt. I hope so anyway because no one should ever have to live with that.

  2. So glad you shared your story, Pamela. It is important, and DOES count..

    Thank you for sharing.

  3. there are more of us out there than anyone could ever count. there needs to be more of a voice. bravo.

  4. thank you for being brave enough to tell your story!

  5. It's so amazing and brave that you shared your story. It can't possibly have been easy to write that out. I don't even know what else to say. I'm just in awe of you and your strength.

  6. I was one of the two people she told and even I found out some stuff today.

    The good news is that my Darling Missus is in such a frame of mind about it to say to me one of the nicest things I have ever heard.

    Heart you!

  7. Thank you again, my darling, brave, girl.

    Much, much love to you.


  8. Thanks Pamela. .....we need to you

  9. I admire your bravery and honesty. Thank you for sharing your story.

  10. You did the right thing in telling your story.

    Maybe some guys actually think it is okay to take sex whenever they want it when it's from a girlfriend/or spouse.

    How will they ever know it isn't okay unless people speak up?

  11. I'm sure glad you found the Mister.


talk to me, people. because you know i get all giddy when you do.